Parenting could have immense pressure in doing the right thing when raising kids. Children might learn from their experience, but parents should also have to consider their role in making sure their children understand the importance of psychological and mental function. The increased influence will somehow create a reflection of their behavioral progress that parents should prioritize. Parents seldom see mistakes on what they do when trying to educate them and often it leads to an alarming result.
Giving Too Much – It is understandable that parents only want to give everything to their children. However, spoiling them is a big problem they may face in the long run. It will become harmful in both social and mental development because it will create a lasting effect of dependency. Spoiled children will eventually turn out bossy and selfish. They will lack the necessary skills that can contribute to decision making on the demands of adulthood.
Valuing The Expectation Of Perfection – Andrea Vargas LMHC often tells parents that “Raising teenagers can be challenging. The world is so different nowadays. These kids have to so much to deal with, it is no wonder they feel grown-ups don’t understand.” Parents who don’t consider constructive criticism for their kids will eventually complicate their overall health progress. Treating them as perfect individuals is destructive because they might end up believing that most of the things they do are based on their capability to dictate. When children understand that they have too much power, they will never recognize a clear hierarchy and end up losing respect.
Giving Kids Too Many Choices – Giving kids too many options can be very alarming. The idea of trying to make them happy and letting them choose what benefits them can lead to a never-ending dissatisfaction. They will tend to ignore the value of perseverance and will lose all the motivations they need to push through something they want in life. They will stop chasing happiness and will always settle for convenience.
Overprotecting The Kids – “There are no road maps for raising some children. If you have a son or a daughter with autism or another challenging developmental disorder, you already know that many of the usual rules don’t apply.” says Carrie Sheppard, LMHC. The good intention of protecting children can become way over its boundaries. Parents may feel the need for control over all the aspects of their kid’s life, which may lead to unhealthy identity problems. Overprotecting them from experiencing risk, failure, and negative emotions will make them vulnerable in the early stages of life challenges.
Engaging In Competitive Parenting – A healthy competition is an excellent way for parents to focus on the weak parts of their kids and boost their self-confidence. However, the excessive desire of attaining unrealistic goals may lead to stress and failure. The pressure that you give your children will result in clinical symptoms of depression and anxiety that will damage their sense of self-worth. “Empathy helps the child to calm down so they are more open and able to reason, helping to create neural connections in the rational brain to become an efficient manager of emotion.” says Sharon Booker, MA, LMHC.
Underestimating Their Characters – Not knowing your child is the worst failure of being a parent. Projecting an impression of someone they are not can result in an identifiable attitude. Most of the behavioral problems of children have a connection to their emotional concerns that parents don’t often notice. You must avoid making conclusions and not base your kid’s personality on assumptions.
There is nothing simple when it comes to parenting. It is a bumpy journey where parents should consider equally difficult choices that will help their kids grow. Being able to identify the right and wrong ways of parental interaction can assist in attaining a better parent-child relationship.